HOW TO BE THE PERFECT CUAO 101

HOW TO BE THE PERFECT CUAO

OHHH...Singlehood...you just got out of that relationship that literally drained you of your energy, money, time, future goals, and of course trample of all over your heart at the same time that make you look like an ASSticle in front of everyone you knew including your children..your family...YOUR MOTHER...lets dont forget YOUR MOTHER!...I can clearly hear now the "I told you so...he was up to no good...you need to listen your mother..you say yes, but never do...men are hunters...there is a process...you need at least a year or two between relationships...how someone fell in love so fast....."

"Yes, Mom, I know...okay can we please drop it...again..." It seems like that's the only thing on their lips today the you are not getting any younger speech or richer...did you know she just break up with another one? she probably tells her friends....Arggg...I really thought I got it this time...he had kids...seemed to like mine,..had a job..WAIT! He didnt have a car...and okay I saw the red flags everywhere...it was like riding a bus to a very fun place looking through the window and the faster the bus went the more flags...you could see passing along the road...all of the HUGE giant red flags...all waiting FOR ME...AND BOOM when I run out of money...it hits...Huh...text from one of his redneck friends: what are you doing with a fat chick?..His answer: ...she had money at the time....WOW...What a fu$#$# piece of cow dong....It is beyond me how people can lie right to your face...and say the word I LOVE YOU right to you! It is classical epic letdown you thought you were the girl of his dreams...he started to think that way but...somehow....well lets look at evidence number one look below::::: yeah if freaking SUCKS!!!

I always wonder if somehow along the way..maybe I dont know or feel or ever felt what love is...Have you ever felt that way? If love feels different to different people how do you know...when is love or silliness?  Love for me looks like this: Teamwork you can always count on your mate for good or for bad.

 Fun and friendly: You might have many things in common or none but you can make the best of the worse situations together and you always think the best of them first...if not communicate and ask.

You can always tell you how you feel no matter how stupid..if they love you they wont dismiss you or tell you that you are crazy...someone that loves you will fight for you!

Mom was right as always, and at this point no point in arguing the truth when I heard myself defending the man that supposedly I was in love...at the time. Funny enough two weeks after our break up I found out after some realization that I was not in love.not sure what happened there...maybe part spell...maybe I saw an friend in trouble and wanted to help...a single dad living in poverty and two beautiful children with no mom...and I tried to convince myself that it will work out even on those multiple nights when we didnt have nothing in common and BY THE WAY...you better have something in common in that department...

Have you reader EVER have to convince yourself that you love someone or that someone loved you...? I mean .they had to love you right...they told you so right to your face...you felt it...Did they? How  you wonder they dont feel what I feel? What a freaking mess.

LOVE has been a present theme of thought throughout my life...how an individual can feel that initial spark...chemistry...crush...love...and sometimes last a lifetime and others a few weeks or minutes...even..SO I decided to come up with a plan. Get some ground rules. There had to be rules...how to actually find a male that will be perfect for you?  My search begun in the Self-Help isle at B& N. Fifty bucks later, I bought a couple of books ..I really wish they will disguise them better....argggg .....they even titled that isle "Self-Help" like we are sick with some disease and we are so weak and stupid we can figure it out...wait...that's pretty much how this kind of relationship makes you feel right...sick...blah....tired...depressed...now you know now that was the wrong kind of relationship to be on. What is wrong with me? NOTHING!!!

Being single is not a curse...is a decision..sometimes a wise one for many people. I decided to give it a try. Last March, after awful breakup and finally recuperating my now completely destroyed car...which he used and abused...I felt relieved....the morning ride was a bliss..no more getting up at five a.m. to drop 3 kids on three different schools and grandmas' house...no more lending money for food, gas, cable, and occasional clothes for my stepdaughters...I could get up two hours late...get my latte...drop my son which was much more relaxed and happy...and not being hit by the little stepdemon at every turn...and I even started to get looks from coworkers and friends...you are glowing they said...YES IT IS THE TASTE OF FREEEDOM FOR AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP....GOSH I DODGED A BULLET!!! Yes, Yoda...you always got my back!!!

I started my new job which I have to say helped me and saved me...a couple of my coworkers became my friends through the breakup and make me feel like I was worth it..thanks for remind me what I lost on the way!  As my thoughts and bad days were occupied now by my three year old Erik and my new training in the corporate America. I started to loose weight...became more confident... BECOME ME AGAIN... BECAME A FIRST YEAR CUAO.....never I will trust another MALE of the species NEVER...I became the RED DRAGON again. Do like they do use them and leave them..and for a while I was good at it. I was not fake, I did not lie, I was just like them but without the lies and cover ups. I was a CUAO first year.

Then I read a very powerful book on dating online and how to become a CUAO...it sounded like some brazilian bikini wax thingy, but I kept reading. I dont want to give away some of the rules since these books are not written by me...and these rules have been around before our Grannys but, the question that I was pondering was...Why games? Why rules?...why rules..because ladies...there are rules...even if we dont want to follow them,...believe in them...or act on them..the rules of how to be a CUAO.

So, WHAT IS A CUAO?...males of the species...close your eyes and ears...and go watch some ...I dont know football or pass the channels with the remote randomly never really stopping on a channel.

 Ladies look below:
“Being a creature unlike any other is a state of mind. Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It’s the way you smile (you light up the room), pause in between sentences (you don’t babble on and on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demure, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight) and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back).”

Now that is just a definition, there is so many rules on how a CUAO should behave...this is not a system to trick a man into liking you..but it is a system never to forget what you are worth.

Now my problem readers is that I used to be a CUAO when I was young but I never knew what a CUAO was or is..most women start that way, but with age and time we forget that we are worth....and now I completely forgot how to be one naturally. My time in the U.S. Army didnt help to make me more of a lady that I was...in fact...heck the opposite...I am pretty straight forward...just like men are in general. So before we go into what is a CUAO and what are the rules ...your homework for this week is: “What is the difference that makes the same guy behave and treat 2 completely different women, differently?  

TO BE CONTINUED.....
Mystique James